I Think He/She Might Be Having An Affair
Instead of answering each different e-mail individually on this subject,(because I have had a few more than one or two e-mails on the subject) I thought that I would give an overall opinion on this subject.
When people go an have an affair from a psychological point of view they are going out looking for something new and exciting to get that same adrenaline rush that they would feel, if they were with someone else or doing something that they enjoy, yes it is morally wrong but if you look at it we do it everyday, if you see someone walking down the street, and you saw what you thought was the perfect looking person you think "I wouldn't mind a bit of that" OK maybe not on those words, but we do, do it it's just some of us have a bit more self control than others.
If you think you partner is doing the dirty on you, without being overly sneaky and making it look like a brand new effort to get into their lives, just scape the surface and see what you can find, and if you see anything unusual look a little bit further, but I do air on the side of caution, when I say this because if you look and get the answers you are looking for and they are not the ones you wanted be careful it could hurt you more than you think.
Also doing a "Shall We Dance" theme of looking into their lives, I still say that is fine, but be careful of the answers you might get.
If you do find out that they have been cheating you have to look at your options, because telling them just to F*** Off may not always be the best solution, because of ties that you might have together as a couple, but if you feel that what they did was to bad and you have to leave then, because you can't sort it out. Make sure you get what you want first, as it was them in the first place that did something wrong. If you have major ties between you then I would suggest that you seek legal advice, from a qualified person, to aid you in you situation.
To the people that asked I hope this helps you!!!
When people go an have an affair from a psychological point of view they are going out looking for something new and exciting to get that same adrenaline rush that they would feel, if they were with someone else or doing something that they enjoy, yes it is morally wrong but if you look at it we do it everyday, if you see someone walking down the street, and you saw what you thought was the perfect looking person you think "I wouldn't mind a bit of that" OK maybe not on those words, but we do, do it it's just some of us have a bit more self control than others.
If you think you partner is doing the dirty on you, without being overly sneaky and making it look like a brand new effort to get into their lives, just scape the surface and see what you can find, and if you see anything unusual look a little bit further, but I do air on the side of caution, when I say this because if you look and get the answers you are looking for and they are not the ones you wanted be careful it could hurt you more than you think.
Also doing a "Shall We Dance" theme of looking into their lives, I still say that is fine, but be careful of the answers you might get.
If you do find out that they have been cheating you have to look at your options, because telling them just to F*** Off may not always be the best solution, because of ties that you might have together as a couple, but if you feel that what they did was to bad and you have to leave then, because you can't sort it out. Make sure you get what you want first, as it was them in the first place that did something wrong. If you have major ties between you then I would suggest that you seek legal advice, from a qualified person, to aid you in you situation.
To the people that asked I hope this helps you!!!
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