I Think That I am Ready

Adrian

Me and my boyfriend have been dating over a year now, and I think that I am ready to have sex, but I aint sure, he is a nice guy, but I dont wanna get prgnant or anything!!!!! How will I know when I am ready?


Adrian Says.............................

If you can answser yes to all these ten questions then I would say then, your pretty much ready for it.

1- Are you doing it because you want to???
And not because you think everyone else is, or because your partner and your friends are pressuring you to do it.

2- Do you know them well enough???
How well do you know about their past what what they got up to, have they been truthful.

3- Is it Legal?
Are you both at the age of consent, to have sex

4- Do I feel comfortable enough with my partner to do this, and to do it sober?
Are you ok with him/her seeing you naked, and you won't get embaresed, also if you are drunk, it surgests that your probably not ready.

5-Do I know enough about sex?

Do you know the consequences of sex like, pregnacy STD's


6-Will I be glad when I’m older that I lost my virginity at the age I am now?

Will you look back and go " shouldn't have done that when I did!"


7-Do I know how to have sex safely?

Have you got all the prcautions for sex.


8-Can I talk to my partner about sex?

If you can't then don't


9- Do we both want to do this?

If you are both ok about it, because for sex to be good you both need to be willing.


10-Does sex fit in with my/their personal beliefs?

In the culture you came from, does it feel right from your cultures point of view.

I Think He/She Might Be Having An Affair

Instead of answering each different e-mail individually on this subject,(because I have had a few more than one or two e-mails on the subject) I thought that I would give an overall opinion on this subject.


When people go an have an affair from a psychological point of view they are going out looking for something new and exciting to get that same adrenaline rush that they would feel, if they were with someone else or doing something that they enjoy, yes it is morally wrong but if you look at it we do it everyday, if you see someone walking down the street, and you saw what you thought was the perfect looking person you think "I wouldn't mind a bit of that" OK maybe not on those words, but we do, do it it's just some of us have a bit more self control than others.


If you think you partner is doing the dirty on you, without being overly sneaky and making it look like a brand new effort to get into their lives, just scape the surface and see what you can find, and if you see anything unusual look a little bit further, but I do air on the side of caution, when I say this because if you look and get the answers you are looking for and they are not the ones you wanted be careful it could hurt you more than you think.


Also doing a "Shall We Dance" theme of looking into their lives, I still say that is fine, but be careful of the answers you might get.


If you do find out that they have been cheating you have to look at your options, because telling them just to F*** Off may not always be the best solution, because of ties that you might have together as a couple, but if you feel that what they did was to bad and you have to leave then, because you can't sort it out. Make sure you get what you want first, as it was them in the first place that did something wrong. If you have major ties between you then I would suggest that you seek legal advice, from a qualified person, to aid you in you situation.


To the people that asked I hope this helps you!!!

Is It Time????

Ask Adrian,

I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now, and at least for the past 6 months, I have felt nothing towards him, and our sex life is now just non-exist ant, I don't want to stay but I don't want to hurt him, I mean he has been faithful all this time. What Should I do?

Richard

Adrian Says......................

Have you tried talking to him about how you feel?, and If you have and you still don't feel that spark there anymore then, I think it is time maybe that you went your separate ways, because if you carry on living this lie that you have with him, then at some point down the line it might come to bite you back, these things unfortunately lead to other things and feelings that you may not want like resentment.

New Years

To All I am sorry for not blogging for a while, Over the past month or so, I have had some trouble which needed to be sorted, But I am back now and I have got your e-mails and I will try to get through them all.


I must say HAPPY NEW YEAR to you all